1.       Use the N-word only when discussing it in its historical context.   Its foul history disables its use as a “term of endearment.”   Ask yourself, how often is it used violently or to describe negativity?

2.       Build up your personal level of self-respect, dignity, and pride because when you feel empowered, you will want to and can share that empowerment with others.

3.       Seek knowledge and empowerment through self-educating regularly.   You command respect by your actions – not by telling people they ought to respect you.

4.       Use Brother and Sister (or Sir, Madam, Miss, Beloved) regardless of the situation or environment – whether it is pleasant or hostile.   Kindness typically disarms negativity.

5.       Take note of how and when it’s used in your space (public and private) – and respectfully, kindly, and with love ask that it NOT be used in your presence because you find it offensive.

6.       Take note of how it’s allowed to be marketed through music, songs, videos, and films – and how its use compares to other derogatory racial slurs.   Are other racial slurs used?   Think about why the N-word is the only derogatory racial slur intentionally marketed globally?

7.       When others of different races/ethnicities use it in your presence, ask them NOT to use it and then inquire as to how they would feel if you greeted them with a racial slur for their race/ethnicity.   The majority of them would be highly offended if you called them that racial slur and they would clearly let you know that it would be offensive to them with a serious – daresay – ready to rumble stance.   Yet, why do they think it is okay to use the N-word in your presence?   Ask them.   And then ask yourself – “why am I” so docile and accepting of that usage?

8.       Write a letter or send an email at least once a month to a record label CEO, movie studio CEO, and/or entertainer to complain about the use of the N-word or congratulate them for the non-use of the N-word.   Put it in writing!   You can obtain all contact information (executive names and addresses) from the “Investors” or “Corporate” section of the company’s Web site, where there is usually a phone number as well.

Pick up the phone [or] put pen to paper [or] type a quick letter .